“How I Almost Got Married To A Bully” Alex Unusual Spills
Former big brother Naija housemate, Alex Asogwa better known as Alex Unusual has shocked many when she revealed that she was once proposed to.
In a lengthy post on her Instagram page, Alex revealed that she turned down the proposal and chose herself because the man physically assaulted her.
According to her, her ex would always beat her at every slightest provocation and would blame his behaviour on his upbringing.
She recounted how she once posted a photo of herself wearing his shade, after he gave her a black eye and everyone was drooling and praying for her kind of life, unknowingly, she was suffering in silence.
She added that his mother was in some way supporting his behaviour as she would always caution Alex not to upset him
“I almost got married last year. I mean I was proposed to but I chose myself. I chose life. How can I be with someone that hits me? He always tried to show the world that we had a perfect relationship but I had a black eye and wore his expensive shades to cover it up. I can remember my caption when I posted that picture “Rich and getting it”. I had comments like “show us the way, cut soap for me, you are the fashionista”. My dear your fashionista was covering her shame. I could have chosen to stay with him, won’t my children have to constantly watch their mum being hit? What kind of effect will it have on them? Will they be traumatized? Will they become bullies? Will they learn to hurt others?. There are relationships where people are free to be happy. I wanted that. I wanted a happy family so, I sacrificed my unhealthy relationship before I sealed it. I saw the signs and did what I have to do on time. Andre’s mother is also a bully. She will constantly tell me to treat her son like a king so he won’t be upset and hit me. He will but me for disagreeing with him, for complaining about his late nights, for smiling for too long, for not making fresh meals three times a day, for wanting to go out with friends”.
She further added, “In as much as he blames his character on his upbringing, “I was bullied in school, that’s why I hate being talked back at, my dad made me angry child, I am a Leo and you are aquarium Abi asparagus (whatever he calls it). The Zodiac sign excuses being an animal. He is an adult now and should know what’s wrong and right. He is so rich but wealth doesn’t guarantee health.
All these were words from Udochi during our conversation last week. I understand where she is coming from. Society is blaming her for still being unmarried, social media trills are bullying as usual but I respect her decision. Choose you and your future today.
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