Parenting Tips

By Olaitan Oye-Adeitan

It is heart rendering that children are suffering unjustly and rather than the trend becoming unabated, it is assuming a more worrisome dimension.

Tragically, these innocent lives who should be surrounded by love, care and protection, instead suffer all manners of abuses in the hands of those entrusted with their care.

The case of a female teacher at a private school at Ikorodu, Lagos, Stella Nwadigo, who repeatedly slapped a three-year-old pupil, Abayomi Michael, for failing to write the number six as instructed cannot be hurriedly forgotten.It is good justice is taking its cause due to her arrest.

What about a middle-aged woman at Araromi Obada Oko, identified as Odeale Fatimah who was also arrested for using a razor blade to inflict deep wounds on ten-year-old boy Olasunkanmi Oluwadamilara over allegations of theft of six hundred naira.

In a shocking incident outside Nigeria, an Australian social media influencer was also accused of poisoning her own baby girl to garner donations and increase her online presence.Imagine!

The escalating rate of crimes against children is becoming increasingly unacceptable and has reached a tipping point,where immediate action is necessary.”

The World Health Organization,WHO, defines child maltreatment as the abuse and neglect that occurs to children under 18 years of age. It includes all types of physical and/or emotional ill-treatment, sexual abuse, neglect, negligence and commercial or other exploitation, which results in actual or potential harm to the child’s health, survival, development or dignity in the context of a relationship of responsibility, trust or power.

Worrying statistics reveal that 60% of children under 5 are physically or emotionally abused by parents or caregivers, while 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men have experienced childhood sexual abuse.

Sadly, child maltreatment is frequently concealed, and only few gets support and justice.It’s commendable that justice is being served in recent cases, but we mustn’t forget the countless victims whose ordeals are ignored, and left to endure trauma, injury, or even death in silence.”

Child maltreatment can have far-reaching and devastating consequences, leading to a range of developmental, health, learning difficulties, social struggles, depression, aggression.

The long-term effects of childhood trauma can persist into adulthood, increasing the likelihood of developing mental health disorders, struggling with addiction, experiencing chronic illness, and facing economic instability.”

As they mature into adulthood, victims of childhood maltreatment remain vulnerable to a range of challenges, including psychiatric disorders, substance abuse, chronic health conditions, and reduced economic prospects.(National Research Council, USA),

We therefore, cannot remain passive observers while the future of these innocent children are ravaged by maltreatment. We must intervene and act!

While children atimes cannot but display some naughtiness, discipline should be corrective and not destructive.

As much as possible, avoid hitting any child on sensitive parts such as the eyes, face, ears, head, chest, stomach.These are no go areas to touch while scolding a child for any injury to these parts may be irrepairable.

Be it also known that children, according to Scriptures are the heritage from the Lord, making them precious gifts from God.

Consequently, any form of abuse or maltreatment towards them is a direct affront to God Himself.

Be mindful how you treat children for you never can tell, the child you abuse today might be the very one who comes to your rescue tomorrow.

Interestingly, you may not recognize that child because he would have grown too but it is certain, he will.

Foreign

An 81-year-old man has appeared before Belfast Magistrates’ Court in connection with a number of historical child abuse offences.

James Henry Clarke, with an address at Meadow Lake in Canada, is facing three charges of indecently assaulting two boys in the 1960s and 1970s.

He has been extradited to Northern Ireland from Canada.

The court heard Mr Clarke is retired and has been in custody in Canada for some time awaiting extradition.

A police constable told the court he had executed a warrant for Mr Clarke.

Mr Clarke was released on bail to an agreed address and was ordered to surrender his passport.

He will appear again in court on 22 September.

BBC/Simeon Ugbodovon

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Security

A woman has been arrested by the Police in Ondo state for inflicting injuries on a house boy for stealing meat from the pot.

It was gathered that over 10 different injuries were inflicted on the boy by the woman.

Her arrest followed a trending video on Twitter

The incident happened in Adebowale area of Akure, the state capital.

As a result of the injuries inflicted on the hapless boy, blood was seen gushing out from his body in the video.

The spokesperson of the state police command, Funmilayo Odunlami confirmed this development.

She said the case would be transferred to the criminal investigation department on Monday.

In the meantime, the boy has been taken to police clinic in Akure where he is currently receiving treatment.

A popular social media influencer, Yemi Fash followed the case to the police clinic and said he is not willing to back out until justice is served.

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News Analysis

A United  Nations Report shows that globally, twelve million girls are married before the age of eighteen each year while one in five girls had experienced sexual violence.

To this end, Every 11th of October is set aside to commemorate the international day of the girl child.

The day is to raise awareness on issues facing girls worldwide and drive efforts to meet their needs.

This year’s theme is “my voice our equal future”.

Furthermore, since the outbreak of COVID-19, violence against the girl- child like rape and domestic violence have increased.

What then are the causes of these vices against the girl child?

A social health developer, Mrs. Titilade Da-Costa attributed abuse of girl child on African Tradition and culture which portrays females as lesser individuals and a mere caretaker.

Some residents of Ibadan, the Oyo State Capital who spoke with Radio Nigeria identified lack of parental skills and psychological problems as some reasons for the abuses, called for stiffer penalties for offender

How then can these abuses against the female child be curbed?

Mrs. Da-Costa noted that it was imperative for media organisations to increase awareness on these vices while civil organizations should step up efforts at reforming those that have been abused.

Contributing, National Coordinator of a Non-Governmental Organisation, Concerned Parents and Educators Initiative Group, Mrs. Olukemi Koleowo pointed out that there was need for re-orientating of the girl-child to make her utilize her potentials fully.

A psychologist, Dr. Olugbemi Olukolade emphasised that effects of gender based violence are numerous which might be physical, emotional and psychological.

Dr. Olukolade advocated counselling to tackle the psychological effects of gender based violence which if unattended to, might last for a lifetime.

Titilayo Kupoliyi

Crime

Mrs Christaina Tobias has called for the prosecution of her husband Uchenna Tobias from Imo State for allegedly defiling their three daughters. 

Mrs Tobias in an interview with Radio Nigeria appealed to the Rivers State Police command to ensure that her husband faces justice. 

Narrating her ordeal, the mother of four said the incident happened in May this year when she was leaving for the market and asked her ten year old daughter to birth her younger sister but a female neighbor who opted to bath the five year old girl discovered that the child has been penetrated. 

She explained that the neighbour  informed her about it and they took the child to the hospital for medical examination.

The woman explained that when her husband noticed she was aware of his latest atrocities escaped from the house and had not been seen until yesterday when he was arrested.

Mrs Tobias also revealed that she had sometime in 2012 caught her husband  molesting their ten year old daughter who was two years old  then and when she  raised alarm on the matter her mother in-law with her husband beat her up while the village women warned her not to mention the case again. 

The suspect Uchenna Tobias aged 38 years is now in Police net in Port Harcourt.

Rivers State Police Public Relations Officer Mr. Nnamdi Omoni is yet to respond to the matter as of the time of filing this report.

FRCN South-South

Judiciary

A 41 year old man Iyiola Sanusi Abass, on Monday appeared before an Ibadan Magistrate Court, Iwo Road for abusing his 16 year old son for being wayward.

The Suspect according to Police Prosecutor Mr. Sunday Ogunremi committed the offence on May 20, this year, at his residence, No 10. Sale Manager Street Iwo Road, Ibadan. 

According to the Prosecutor, the suspect burnt the two legs of his son with lighted firewood and locked him inside the house for days without treatment until a neighbour noticed and informed the Police.

Mr  Ogunremi while addressing the court on the two counts charge said the offence was capable causing breach of public peace. 

The suspect, who was in the court with other two children told the court that the boy is used to running away from home after stealing.

He pleaded not guilty to the charge. 

The Defense Council, Mrs Gbadeyanka,  applied for bail, which was objected by the prosecutor. 

Responding, the Magistrate, Mr Taiwo Oladiran who was furious at the action of the man granted him bail with the sum of fifty thousand Naira with two sureties whose address would be verified.

The Magistrate also warned the man against taken revenge on the boy for bringing him to court. 

The case has been adjourned till 27th of next month.

Sunday Ogunyemi