Parenting Tips

Her Parents Had Wrong Idea of Showering Love Until She Committed Suicide

By Web News 1076

…Must Read For Every Parent

By Olaitan Oye-Adeitan

“Dear Mum, it’s with a heavy heart that I’m writing this note, knowing the pain it is going to cause you.

Mum, I want you to know that I love you dearly and if given the opportunity to live again, I will still choose you as mum and our family will still be my place of birth.

But, unfortunately, I know there is not going to be such opportunity.

Mum, I didn’t want to do this but it was compelled by circumstances beyond my control.I tried my best to pull through but my best was not good enough.

I battled along for like thirteen months now until my strength failed me.

You and Dad could not decipher what I was going through, and may be I should not blame you for that. My one and only brother came very close, understanding what I was passing through but it was too much for his young mind to comprehend.

Mum, I know that you and Dad loved me and did all you could to show it, but I was not feeling loved. You provided for me more than I even wanted, took me to places most of my mates had not even heard of.

Despite all these, my heart was longing for love. I needed someone who would love me for who I was. I needed someone who could reach to the depth of my soul and fill the vacuum there. The material provision you spoiled me with could not do that and I was alone all the while despite the fact that we laughed together and had gists as family.

Then came the last straw that broke the camel’s back, your brother, Uncle Tony came to live with us made me feel that he knew exactly what my soul was longing for, companionship! Yes, he chose to stay with me when you and Dad were too busy to notice my loneliness. He tried to keep me company when I needed someone to talk to but I had only gadgets and Teddy Bear. I was fooled to trust him and he hacked into my foolishness and he did it perfectly and deeply.

Mum, your brother raped me and used me as a sex toy for three whole years. I expected you and Dad to notice but none of you did. When he left our house last year, I was shattered because I had grown to fill the void of your presence with his dirty deeds. I couldn’t complain because I was afraid to lose him. But when he eventually left for Canada, the magnitude of the emptiness became too heavy for me to bear.

I struggled to forget those experiences but I could not. My grades dropped in school and Dad quickly arranged for a home lesson teacher. That singular act instead of helping me, fuelled what was going to happen to me.

The home lesson teacher you brought so much reminded me of Uncle and on several occasions, I felt like grabbing him and make him fill the void that Tony’s absence created in me.

Mum, I had to do this because I was lonely. Did you ever imagine what I was doing in my room all the time I stayed there alone? Couldn’t you for once go out of your way and spend time with me so that we could talk?

There are many things I would have liked to tell you but I did not want to add to your pain.

Let those other torments be buried with that undignified body of mine. Make sure my brother, David does not get to this point I am now. Also, please tell your friends and colleagues who have children to find out what is happening to their beloved kids before it gets too late.

Many of the things parents do in the name of showing love are not what we, the younger ones need. I would have been gone long hours before you get to read this note, but one cheering thing is that David is still there. Transfer the love you had for me to him. My bank details and the password of my phones and laptops are in the piece of paper I dropped in the drawer of your dressing table.

I miss you and it pains to empty the content of this bottle into my hand but I am constrained to do it all the same.Tell Dad and David that I love them.Tell my Pastor that I will miss his sermon and long prayers.Tell my friends not to envy me. Good bye mum”.

That was the pathetic letter of a fifteen year old girl to her mother.

If it is the question of who should be held responsible or blame , then every actor in the letter is guilty. But then, one should look deeper to save many other children who may be going through similar situation.

It is a case of a child starved of Love while the parents felt they were showing her love like the letter read “Many of the things parents do in the name of showing love are not what we, the younger ones need”.

Love is not defined by chocolates, ice creams, teddy bears, visiting the best places in the world, going a shopping and just lavishing a child with anything he or she needs. These are things done occasionally without necessarily having to sit down with the child, making it a case of just throwing goodies at the child without the affectionate attention.

Truth be told, your  child NEEDS ATTENTION and AFFECTIONATE CARE. No amount of gadgets, technological devices can be substitute for the quality time you should, as a parent spend with your child.

Unfortunately, parents have allowed the hustle bustle of life to  submerge the attention they are to give their children.

That is why many children die silently or unburden their heart to outsiders or friends who may take advantage of this vacuum,while parents take pride in the fact that they  send them to the best schools, buy them best clothes, load their accounts with substantial money, buy all the needed gadgets for them and make them to be at par or above their mates.

Some children don’t get to see their parents in the morning because they would have left for work very early and also had slept before they returned in the night, leaving the care in the hands of house helps, friends, relatives .

Ask yourself, do you know what your child is going through? Do you know what that house-help, neighbor, uncle, aunt, teacher are doing to your child? Do you know their whereabouts? Popular TV presenter, Frank Olize whenever he was launching his programme, ‘Newsline’, way back then, would ask “Parents where are your children?”

On many occasions, these children want to let out issues bothering them, they want to ask questions, they need counsel, advice, they just want to sit down with their parents and rob minds together but parents are not there.

Never assume all is well with your child and don’t be too busy to find out.

Care must be taken to avoid thinking you know your child when in reality you do not.

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Crime

15-Year-Old Herder Chops off Farmer’s Hand

By Web News 436

A 15-year-old herder, Adamu Ibrahim, has been arrested by the Bauchi State Police Command for allegedly cutting off the hand of a farmer.

The suspect attacked the victim during a fight over intrusion into the latter’s farmland.

The police command spokesperson, SP Ahmed Wakil, disclosed this in a statement on Saturday.

The statement read, “Operatives of the Area Command Metro have arrested one Adamu Ibrahim of Jital village along Gombe Road, Bauchi State, for trespass, mischief and causing grievous hurt.

“Preliminary investigation revealed that the suspect had on several occasions trespassed into the victim’s farmland with his cows while rearing.

“The unfortunate incident followed a series of complaints to the suspect’s father by the victim for intrusion into his rice farmland by the suspect.

“Similarly, the investigation revealed that on August 24, 2023, the suspect, who was armed with a stick and a machete, mischievously invaded the victim’s farmland and destroyed the yet-to-be-ascertained value of crops.

“A disagreement ensued, in the course of which the suspect stabbed the victim upon asking him to vacate his farmland. The suspect drew his machete and chopped off the left hand of the victim.”

It stated further, “On receiving this report, the Area Commander, Metropolitan, swung into action and activated more preventive measures to avert circumstances that may result in a herder-farmer clash in the area and equally directed the arrest of the suspect.

“The victim was rushed to the Abubakar Tafawa Balewa Teaching Hospital, Bauchi, for medical attention and he is responding to treatment.

“Therefore, the Commissioner of Police, Auwal Musa Mohammed, while warning herders to steer clear from intrusion into farmlands in the state, directed that the suspect be charged upon the completion of the discreet investigation.”

Punch/Simeon Ugbodovon

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Foreign

Crocodile Attacks Teenager in Australian Flood

By Web News 665

A teenager has been bitten by a crocodile while being evacuated from floods in Australia’s Northern Territory (NT).

According to reports, the 17-year-old boy was bitten “on the back of the leg” while leaving a remote community and was taken to a local clinic for treatment.

The Australian Defence Force has been called in to help remote areas hit by floods after heavy rainfall.

NT government minister Chansey Paech said some 700 people, including 35 with medical needs, had been flown out of Kalkarindji, about 770km south of Darwin, after the Victoria River burst its banks.

A spokeswoman for Mr Paech said major floods brought added risk, with crocodiles as well as people being displaced.

“When the river bursts its banks, they’re everywhere”, she told the BBC.

Evacuated people will be housed at a former Covid quarantine facility, Howard Springs, and children will be able to attend local schools, officials said.

The territory declared an emergency for four remote areas this week as the upper Victoria River reached major flood levels.

Emergency Controller Daniel Bacon said roads to a number of remote communities remained cut off and urged people to stay away.

The Bureau of Meteorology said the Victoria River had reached a height of 14m at Kalkarindji, but was now falling.

Bbc/Adebukola Aluko

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Crime

Man in Police Net Over Rape

By Web News 2161

Oyo state police command has arrested a twenty-seven-year-old man, Ojo Adeagbo, for allegedly raping a thirteen-year-old girl in the Olodo area of Ibadan.

The Police Public Relations Officer, Adewale Osifeso confirmed the incident to our Correspondent.

He said the investigation had begun into the matter.

The suspect was said to be a friend of the senior brother of the rape victim and had been staying with the victim’s family for over two years.

Narrating her ordeal, the teenager, said Ojo had invited her to get something for him but on rising to the call, gagged her mouth and pounced on her.

She said, Ojo since the first ençounter, eventually turned her into a sex slave and had been sexually assaulting her for the past seven months.

The teenager also revealed that the man was in the habit of wiping her private part with a new handkerchief any time she had carnal knowledge of her.

On why she did not report the case early, the teenager said Ojo had allegedly warned her not to tell her parents else he would kill all her family members.

Radio Nigeria reliably gathered that the medical examination carried out on the teenager at the Oyo State Hospital, Yemetu, Ibadan confirmed that the hymen had been broken.

It was also gathered that Ojo Adeagbo had also attempted to have sexual intercourse with the eleven-year-old sister of the victim after watching a pornographic film with her.

Abisola Oluremi

Crime

Teenager Gouges Eye of 12-Year Old Boy in Kano

By Web News 823

Nigeria Police Force, Kano state Command has detained a 17-year-old boy, Isah Hassan, for gouging out the right eye of a 12-year-old child, Mustapha Yunusa, with a knife.

Hassan stated that a woman asked him to pay Five hundred naira to prepare a voodoo ceremony for him to vanish.

Hassan was accused of luring the youngster, an Almajiri, into a bush, tying his hands, and plucking his right eye out.

A grandmother, Furera Abubakar, who claimed to be 100 years old, was also apprehended.

According to the Police Public Relations Officer, SP Abdullahi Kiyawa, the suspects brought Yunusa to Rimin Hamza Quarters in Tarauni Local Government Area and used a sharp knife to remove his right eyeball before fleeing.

“Police took the victim to Murtala Mohammed Specialist Hospital, Kano, where a medical Practitioner confirmed that the victim’s eyeball was violently removed using a sharp object, and the victim was hospitalised,” the PPRO added.

The adolescent suspect, a resident of Dantsinke in Rimin Hamza Quarters Tarauni LGA, was apprehended on Tuesday with the assistance of a local vigilante from Sheka Quarters, who added that during interrogation, the suspect admitted to perpetrating the crime.

Isah Hassan also revealed that he sought advice from his 16-year-old friend, Sani Abdulrahman, on how to obtain a charm that would allow him to vanish, after which the friend sent him to his grandmother, Furera.

Hassan went on to say that after giving the woman the eyeball, she ordered him to bring five hundred naira, but when he didn’t have the money, she advised him to put it in a safe place and bring it back when he did.

This, he claimed, caused him to hold the eyeball for 3 days, after which it deteriorated and he threw it away.

SP Kiyawa said the case has been sent to the Criminal Inquiry Department for further investigation.

FRCN Abuja

Health

Teenager Collapses In Ibadan

By Web News 1042

A teenager, who suddenly collapsed on the road around Iya olobe area of Ekotedo,, Dugbe Ibadan is currently being abandoned at the premises of Ekotedo central, Mosque.

Our correspondent who was contacted on the development reports that the 15year old girl could neither talk nor eat.

 Aside a bag containing pieces of underwears and seven hundred naira found in the bag, the sight of the young girl showed physical malnourishment with reddish eyeballs.

A trader at Iya olobe area of Ekotedo, who identified himself as Mr Emeka reports that

he carried the girl out of the road after collapsing and gave her food which she could not eat.

Attempt to get the intervention of Ido Gate police division was unsuccessful as officers on duty said the division was a tactical wing of the police force.

They also claimed that the case was out of their jurisdiction as it belongs to Mokola division of the Nigeria police force.

Rotimi Famakin

Crime

Police Arrest Pastor Over Rape In Ogun

By Web News 834

Ogun State Police command has arrested Pastor Peter Taiwo of a Church Abeokuta and his wife Elizabeth for allegedly conniving to defile a 16 year old choir member of the church.

The Command’s Spokesman, Mr Abimbola Oyeyemi said in a statement in Abeokuta that the suspects were arrested after the victims had reported the incident at Adatan divisional headquarters.

Mr Oyeyemi said the victim told the policemen that she had gone to the church for choir practice when the pastor’s wife said her husband wanted to send her on errand.

The victim claimed that the pastor’s wife allegedly locked door and the pastor forcefully had sex with her. 

The command’s spokesman said the couple confessed to the crime blaming the devil for the incident and pleaded for forgiveness from the victim. 

He said the victim had been taken to  hospital by the police for medical treatment. 

Meanwhile, the Commissioner of Police, Mr Lanre Bankole, has ordered the transfer of the suspects to anti human trafficking and child labour unit of the state criminal investigation and intelligence department for further investigation, with the view to charge them to court as soon as investigation is concluded. 

Segun Folarin

Crime

Teenager jailed 3 months for stealing plastic chairs from Church

By Web News 851

An Abeokuta Magistrates’ Court has sentenced a nineteen-year-old man, Lekan Alaka, to three months imprisonment for stealing plastic chairs worth ninety-one thousand two hundred nairas from Mount Zion Anglican Church.

Magistrate Olajumoke Somefun in her judgement held that the prosecution proved its case beyond reasonable doubts sentencing the suspect to three months imprisonment with an option of an N100, 000 fine.

Earlier, the Prosecution Counsel, Mr Olakunle Shonibare told the court that the convict committed the offence on Oct. 23, at about 4.30 a.m. at Mount Zion Anglican Church, Leme area in Abeokuta.

He said the convict scaled the church fence and stole 24 pieces of plastic chairs, the property of Mount Zion Anglican Church.

The prosecutor said the convict was arrested by vigilante officers in the community while he was trying to escape with the stolen items the offence he said contravened the provisions of Sections 415 of the Criminal Law of Ogun,2006.

Wale Oluokun

Crime

Gunmen Kidnap Teenager in Ogun

By Web News 695

Ogun State Police command has confirmed the kidnap by gunmen in Nigerian Army Camouflage of a thirteen year old boy in Obada-Odo Ewekoro Local Government Area of Ogun State.
According to the Spokesman of the command, Mr. Abimbola Oyeyemi, operatives of the command had been deployed to the area to rescue the victim.
He confirmed that the gunmen had trailed the victim’s family to Destiny Estate Community in Obada-Oko.
Meanwhile, the family of the victim, Gbolahan Ajibola had been reached by the abductors demanding fifty million naira ransome.
The grandmother of the victim, Mrs. Victoria Felix told newsmen that the attackers were six in number and collected the bags and the phones of Gbolahan and his mother during the attack.

Wale Oluokun

Crime

Police Nab Teenager in Ogun for Alleged Theft of Woman’s 14 Pants

By Web News 961


Police in Ogun state have arrested a sixteen year old boy, Adeniyi Muhammed for allegedly stealing fourteen different pairs of woman’s underwear.

The Spokesman of the state Command, Mr Abimbola Oyeyemi said in a statement in Abeokuta that suspect was arrested after Amudalat Opaleye, a resident of Kano Street in Ayetoro, report the incident at the police station in the area that the suspect had sneaked into the room and stole her underwear.

Mr Oyeyemi said the Divisional Police Officer, DPO, Ayetoro, Mr Mobolaji Jimoh detailed his detectives to the scene where the items were recovered from the suspect.
He noted that the suspect had confessed to the crime, claiming that he was sent by somebody to get those underwear for him.
Mr Oyeyemi said efforts were on to get his called accomplice arrested.
Meanwhile, the commissioner of police Mr Edward Awolowo Ajogun has directed that the suspect be transferred to the state criminal investigation and intelligence department for further investigation.
NR Olusegun Folarin