Ignorantly, most parents in present-day society, handle their children in ways that could make them completely dependent on them such that the children would find it difficult to do things or take decisions on their own when they are capable of doing things for themselves.

Attitude That Makes Children Over Dependent

1. You cook their food for them so that they can read and enjoy it.

2. You help them to wash their clothes and tidy their rooms.

3. You drop them off at school every day by yourself!

4. You lie on their behalf to get them out of trouble.

5. You arrange “expo” to help them pass their exams.

6. You protect them from every danger and difficulty.

7. You prevent them from any form of pain and suffering.

8. You hustle around while they watch films and play games.

9. They can’t go out alone because you’re always scared.

10. You take every decision for them because you’re wiser.

11. You go to their schools to fight for them and prove their rights.

12. You defend them even when they’re wrong and at fault.

13. You cannot stand seeing them starve or go hungry for once.

14. You fight against those who try to correct them.

You probably think you are showing them love but you may be shocked that you are raising an over-dependent generation. The harm is that by the time you’re no longer there and they face real-life challenges, they will become helpless!!! At that stage, they will realize the havoc you have done on them

Parents need to be careful how they raise their children. Remember, parenting is a divine assignment and so, requires God’s wisdom to be able to succeed in the task of raising responsible children.

    .                                            WISDOM TIPS

1. Give your children age-appropriate domestic tasks, even if you have a thousand and one domestic servants at home. It is sheer ignorance to think that doing everything for your children is a mark of honour or a way of bequeathing royalty on them.

2. Teach them to be useful and make their impact felt positively wherever they are found starting from the home, in school, places of worship, or other places.

3. Encourage your children to always leave a good impression wherever they go; teach them to be courteous, respectful, friendly, cheerful and helpful.

4. Teach them good toilet manners – they must know how to keep the toilet neat for the next user, and let them know that it is unacceptable to leave the bathroom floor or walls messed with soap, foam, or any form of dirt after bathing.

5. Teach your children the importance of taking good care of their body and their environment; whether they are at home or elsewhere. Remind them that responsible people don’t leave their rooms unkempt or their bed unmade when they get up in the morning; teach them to take their bath very well and smell fine always. you; let them take care of their armpits, teeth, hair and nails.

6. Teach your children to manage their used clothes and other personal belongings very well, whether in their home or elsewhere. It can be irritating to have dirty clothes or shoes, especially those of a visitor litter every corner of the house.

7. Let them pack their toiletries before leaving home. Your children should not depend on their hosts for their basic toiletries such as soap, cream, tooth paste and other essentials.

8. Teach your children to dress well all the time, especially when they are spending time with another family. You probably allow your daughters to dress in bum shots and your sons to walk about with their chest bare in your home, but they may not be safe if they do so in another place. You may not know where a predator would lie in wait for a child.

9. Teach them good table manners; not the ones recited in nursery schools rhymes. Teach them to chew with their mouth covered, not to make noise with the cutlery on their teeth, not to talk with their mouth full, etc.

10. Let your children know that washing only their own plates after eating is not a noble idea.

11. Remind your children that jumping into a conversation when adults are talking is a sign of being ill-mannered. Discourage this both in your home and elsewhere and do not hesitate to scold them for any act of misbehaviour.

12. Help your children not to be social birds online and anti-social bugs offline. They should relate well with people around them, much more than they do with virtual folks they meet online. Please, discourage this idea of young people locking themselves in the room for hours on end without communicating with anyone in the house – all because they are on phone.

13. Empower your children to uphold your family values wherever they are. But before then, make sure that your family values are credible, empowering, socially and morally beneficial.

14. Teach your children to control their appetite and learn to turn down certain offers, even when such offers come from people they know. And at home, it is not compulsory that they must taste everything they see someone eating. This will help them to take their eyes away from certain things when they are in other people’s homes.

15. Always remind your children that they are the window through which the world sees you. If your children’s behavior outside is bad, the general consensus is that they lack home training. And since children are not meant to give themselves home training, it means that you failed as a parent.

16. Finally, make sure your children know God. Salvation is not hereditary; that you are Godly or highly spiritual is not a guarantee that your children are saved. You must consciously and deliberately lead them to God.

Let us try our best to make sure these children represent us well. I am sure you will feel good if you come to your children’s school and people are pointing at you as the parent of the best-behaved child in the school. Won’t you?

Make sure your hosts and the hosts of your children are always impressed to have you or your children around.

May God, The Almighty make our children responsible and successful, Amen!

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