The Acting Head of the Audit Department, Federal Medical Centre, FMC, Idi Aba, Abeokuta, Mr Oluwaseun Adeniyi has reportedly committed suicide by jumping into a well in the Obantoko area of Abeokuta, Ogun State.
Head of Public Relations and Communication, FMC Abeokuta, Mr Segun Orisajo, who confirmed the incident expressed the Management’s condolences to the family of the deceased and the FMC Abeokuta Community, describing the deceased as a dedicated and hardworking member of staff.
Mr Orisajo explained that the incident occurred shortly after the late Adeniyi had dinner with his family.
He said the motive behind this tragic act remained unclear, adding that the deceased allegedly had a previous record of mental health challenges.
The head of Public Relations and Communication, FMC said the management of the centre used the opportunity to call for the need to increase awareness and resources for mental health support.
Police have encouraged residents of Ogun state to give necessary support and seek experts’ assistance for their family members whose relatives or loved ones required emotional support.
The Commissioner of Police, Mr Abiodun Alamutu stated this in a statement while reacting to the death of a 49 year old woman, Mrs Idowu Victoria who allegedly committed suicide by hanging herself on the ceiling fan inside her room in Ibafo area of the state.
Mr Alamutu who spoke through the command’s spokesperson, Omotola Odutola said the son of the deceased Idowu Qudus had reported the incident at Ibafo Divisional Police officers.
Idowu Qudus told the policemen that he had met his mother hung on the ceiling fan when returned from the Church.
Mr Alamutu who noted that there was no suicide note found at the scene when officers arrived the place described suicide as unlawful act, noting that, sufferers of mental health needed more support from their family to prevent fatality.
Life is a special gift from God. It is beautiful than it could ever be imagined, irrespective of the up and the hills of it.
Therefore, giving up in whatever circumstance is not the decision to take realizing that, ‘When there is life, there is hope’.
But, when you give it all up now, you will not only have succeeded in shutting the womb of the potentially glorious destiny about to break forth in you, but also making life miserable for people whom you are destined to help navigate the path of life.
It is true that life could pose series of challenges ranging from sickness, poverty, joblessness, indebtedness, rejection, dejection, among other issues.
These may cause affected individuals to think otherwise about life due to their weak capacity to manage challenges.
Depression gradually sets in and if care is not taken, it gives birth to an unwanted pregnancy, ‘Suicide’!
Concept depicting the ongoing pandemic and its devastating effect on job loss.
But this is certainly not the solution to life battles. You are meant to conquer and not challenges overcoming you.
Getting advice from time to time, being in the midst of people who can cheer you up, discussing ideas that can make life better irrespective of the vivid problems that may face you on such ideas, would go a long way in individual lives and it would reduce the spate of suicidal act.
Remember the common advice, ‘Never hide under a cloth, a hand that is wounded’. If you do, it would in no time decay.
“Dear Mum, it’s with a heavy heart that I’m writing this note, knowing the pain it is going to cause you.
Mum, I want you to know that I love you dearly and if given the opportunity to live again, I will still choose you as mum and our family will still be my place of birth.
But, unfortunately, I know there is not going to be such opportunity.
Mum, I didn’t want to do this but it was compelled by circumstances beyond my control.I tried my best to pull through but my best was not good enough.
I battled along for like thirteen months now until my strength failed me.
You and Dad could not decipher what I was going through, and may be I should not blame you for that. My one and only brother came very close, understanding what I was passing through but it was too much for his young mind to comprehend.
Mum, I know that you and Dad loved me and did all you could to show it, but I was not feeling loved. You provided for me more than I even wanted, took me to places most of my mates had not even heard of.
Despite all these, my heart was longing for love. I needed someone who would love me for who I was. I needed someone who could reach to the depth of my soul and fill the vacuum there. The material provision you spoiled me with could not do that and I was alone all the while despite the fact that we laughed together and had gists as family.
Then came the last straw that broke the camel’s back, your brother, Uncle Tony came to live with us made me feel that he knew exactly what my soul was longing for, companionship! Yes, he chose to stay with me when you and Dad were too busy to notice my loneliness. He tried to keep me company when I needed someone to talk to but I had only gadgets and Teddy Bear. I was fooled to trust him and he hacked into my foolishness and he did it perfectly and deeply.
Mum, your brother raped me and used me as a sex toy for three whole years. I expected you and Dad to notice but none of you did. When he left our house last year, I was shattered because I had grown to fill the void of your presence with his dirty deeds. I couldn’t complain because I was afraid to lose him. But when he eventually left for Canada, the magnitude of the emptiness became too heavy for me to bear.
I struggled to forget those experiences but I could not. My grades dropped in school and Dad quickly arranged for a home lesson teacher. That singular act instead of helping me, fuelled what was going to happen to me.
The home lesson teacher you brought so much reminded me of Uncle and on several occasions, I felt like grabbing him and make him fill the void that Tony’s absence created in me.
Mum, I had to do this because I was lonely. Did you ever imagine what I was doing in my room all the time I stayed there alone? Couldn’t you for once go out of your way and spend time with me so that we could talk?
There are many things I would have liked to tell you but I did not want to add to your pain.
Let those other torments be buried with that undignified body of mine. Make sure my brother, David does not get to this point I am now. Also, please tell your friends and colleagues who have children to find out what is happening to their beloved kids before it gets too late.
Many of the things parents do in the name of showing love are not what we, the younger ones need. I would have been gone long hours before you get to read this note, but one cheering thing is that David is still there. Transfer the love you had for me to him. My bank details and the password of my phones and laptops are in the piece of paper I dropped in the drawer of your dressing table.
I miss you and it pains to empty the content of this bottle into my hand but I am constrained to do it all the same.Tell Dad and David that I love them.Tell my Pastor that I will miss his sermon and long prayers.Tell my friends not to envy me. Good bye mum”.
That was the pathetic letter of a fifteen year old girl to her mother.
If it is the question of who should be held responsible or blame , then every actor in the letter is guilty. But then, one should look deeper to save many other children who may be going through similar situation.
It is a case of a child starved of Love while the parents felt they were showing her love like the letter read “Many of the things parents do in the name of showing love are not what we, the younger ones need”.
Love is not defined by chocolates, ice creams, teddy bears, visiting the best places in the world, going a shopping and just lavishing a child with anything he or she needs. These are things done occasionally without necessarily having to sit down with the child, making it a case of just throwing goodies at the child without the affectionate attention.
Truth be told, your child NEEDS ATTENTION and AFFECTIONATE CARE. No amount of gadgets, technological devices can be substitute for the quality time you should, as a parent spend with your child.
Unfortunately, parents have allowed the hustle bustle of life to submerge the attention they are to give their children.
That is why many children die silently or unburden their heart to outsiders or friends who may take advantage of this vacuum,while parents take pride in the fact that they send them to the best schools, buy them best clothes, load their accounts with substantial money, buy all the needed gadgets for them and make them to be at par or above their mates.
Some children don’t get to see their parents in the morning because they would have left for work very early and also had slept before they returned in the night, leaving the care in the hands of house helps, friends, relatives .
Ask yourself, do you know what your child is going through? Do you know what that house-help, neighbor, uncle, aunt, teacher are doing to your child? Do you know their whereabouts? Popular TV presenter, Frank Olize whenever he was launching his programme, ‘Newsline’, way back then, would ask “Parents where are your children?”
On many occasions, these children want to let out issues bothering them, they want to ask questions, they need counsel, advice, they just want to sit down with their parents and rob minds together but parents are not there.
Never assume all is well with your child and don’t be too busy to find out.
Care must be taken to avoid thinking you know your child when in reality you do not.
A professional footballer in Tunisia has died after setting himself alight earlier this week in what he said was a protest against the “police state” ruling the country, his brother said Friday.
Nizar Issaoui, 35, suffered third-degree burns from his action in the village of Haffouz in the central region of Kairouan, his brother Ryad told AFP.
He was taken from the hospital in Kairouan to the specialist burns hospital in Tunis but doctors were unable to save his life, the brother said.
“He died yesterday (Thursday) and will be buried today.”
Issaoui’s protest recalled that of street vendor Mohamed Bouazizi, who burned himself to death on December 17, 2010, sparking the Tunisian revolution that was the trigger for the Arab Spring uprisings which toppled authoritarian regimes across the Middle East.
“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.”
Laurell K. Hamilton
Such is the quiet path that leads to Suicide, Depression, and Early grave; you never can tell whether a loved one is treading on that path.
However, there is hope even in that hopeless situation and you can save a life as you tune in to the Southwest Network of Radio Nigeria-Ibadan on Wednesday, 14th September, for this week’s edition of your number one Edutainment programme, “Midweek Cruise”.
“Suicide is not an answer, it’s destruction.”
Al Green
Join ‘Dayo Adenuga and Seyi Owoeye on Premier FM 93.5, as they bring to the fore the “How, Why and possible ways out of Depression, Suicide and Untimely Death”.
“Hope is a necessity for normal life and the major weapon against the suicide impulse.”
Karl A. Menninger
You can also listen on your terrestrial radio via Gold 95.5FM, Ilesa in Osun State, Paramount 94.5FM, Abeokuta in Ogun State, Progress 100.5FM, Ado Ekiti in Ekiti State, and Positive 102.5 FM, Akure in Ondo State.
The guest is the Immediate past Head of Department, Psychology, University of Ilorin, Dr Johnson Oyeleke.
A Nigerian man, Obinna Igbokwe, on Thursday died by suicide after shooting his wife, Tangela, and grandmother in Texas, United States of America.
NBC reported that Igbokwe left home with his three-month-old son, after shooting both women in their heads on Wednesday.
Though the wife is critically injured and hospitalised, her grandmother died from the injury.
While on the run, Igbokwe dropped the child in a car seat at a local hotel.
When the police were alerted of his presence in the area, the suspect shot himself and died from the injury.
A statement from the Montgomery County Sheriff’s Office on Thursday read, “On June 2, 2022, at about 12:00 am Detectives with the Montgomery County Sheriff’s Office were contacted by the Corsicana Police Department and advised they had Mansa Igbokwe in their care.
“Since the male did not return the Corsicana Police Department was contacted and learned the male left in a white passenger car, which they believed to be Igbokwe.
“Additional alerts were sent out to local Ellis and Navarro County law enforcement agencies alerting them that Igbokwe was in the area.”
In this peice, Anthonia Akanji writes on ways of discouraging suicide in the society.
A quote by an anonymous author says “suicide doesn’t end the chances of life getting worse, it eliminates the possibility of it ever getting any better”
Suicide is death caused by injuring oneself with the intent to die over various issues.
Research shows that, people choose to end their lives when faced with different life challenges such as death of a loved one, loss of job, diagnosis of a major illness, financial difficulty and failed relationship, as well as mental imbalance.
When these sudden events occur, some people lack the wherewithal mentally, socially and economically to cope, hence the suicide option crept into their brain.
Other factors that could trigger suicidal thoughts include conflict, disasters, abuse and a sense of isolation.
Report has it that suicide is rife among vulnerable groups such as refugees, orphans and prisoners.
Statistics by the World Health Organization, W.H.O. show that seven hundred thousand people die due to suicide every year whiles it is fourth leading cause of death among teenagers.
W.H.O. says suicide is a serious public health concern which needs urgent action as it leaves lasting effects on the people left behind.
Psychiatrists have identified pointers to suicide to include withdrawal, extreme sadness, talking a lot about death, trying to get access to pills or firearms and extreme hopelessness.
Methods of suicide globally are ingestion of pesticides, drug overdose, hangings, use of firearms and drowning but twenty percent of global suicide are due to pesticide self-poisoning according to research by the experts.
For this reason, national agency for food, drugs administration and control, NAFDAC placed a ban on sale of sniper and other agricultural pesticides to curb its wrong use.
Cases of suicide and suicidal attempts abound in the media and this has raised a concern from different quarters to reduce the menace.
For instance, a new generation bank staff, Mwokene Godson reportedly committed suicide in Sapele, Delta State and his remains was found dangling from the scaffold of a water tank.
Last week, it was reported that a three hundred level student of the University of Jos, Henry Eli committed suicide over the on-going ASUU strike, and allegedly left a note for his parents.
Moreover, in Kwara state, a middle aged man, Olakunle Obaoye killed himself over debt owed while another man Idris Shuaib hanged on a cashew tree over impotence. Another middle aged man was seen in a video posted on the social media jumping into the lagoon in Lagos.
According to section 327 of the criminal code act and suicide is a crime, while suicide attempt is also punishable by one year imprisonment.
Rather than punishing the offenders, the act should be seen as a desperate plea for help and therefore appropriate response and alternative provided.
Suicide must no longer be termed a taboo but openly and thoroughly discussed for society to know its effect.
The country need to come up with data on suicide to mitigate causes and the way out.
Religious leaders should come out openly and let people know that the holy books frown at suicide and it is a crime against Islam and Christianity.
This is pivotal to acheiving the W.H.O. mental health action plan aimed at reducing suicide in countries by one third by 2030.
Be it as it may, suicide is never an option and in the words of former UK prime minister, Winston Churchill, “never, never, never give up
A staff of the Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, identified as Fisayo Oyeniyi has committed suicide in his residence.
Report indicates that Oyeniyi, who was one of the armed guards in the security department, sent a suicide note to his mother, wife and children informing them that he was fed up of life, before hanging himself in his house at Ifewara road, Ile-Ife.
According to the report the decreased has been buried in line with the Yoruba tradition
The public relation officer of the institution, Mr Abiodun Olarewaju, confirmed the incident, saying Mr Oyeniyi left office after he sent a suicide text to his family
All efforts to speak with the police as at the time of filing this report failed.
A middle aged man identified as Tayo Olatunji has committed a suicide at Oke Opo area of Ilesa, Osun State.
Tayo Olatunji who was a barber until his death was said to have been reported missing since Sunday morning when he left home without telling his pregnant wife his destination.
Report says that residents of the area where the crime was committed alerted the police when they sighted a lifeless body in a white attire dangling on a tree in a nearby swamp.
Speaking with Radio Nigeria an elder brother to the deceased who simply identified himself as Mr Olatunji described the incident as unfortunate, recounting the assistance rendered to the victim by family members when he complained of financial problems.
The corpse of the deceased has been removed by some traditionalists who performed some rituals before cutting the body loose from the rope with which he hanged himself.
A police source said a search party was launched immediately the police received a report of a missing middle aged man identified as Tayo Olatunji on Sunday.
