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Looking so scared, worried and disturbed was this young, dark in complexion beautiful girl as she walked into the premises of the Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria, Ibadan Zonal Station, Dugbe, Ona – Adebimpe Road in Ibadan.
It was so obvious she needed urgent help.But what could be the source of concern for this teenager?
Ikimo Ayoola by name, very outspoken and confident, complained that her father threatened to kill her for allegedly spoiling his dumb phone.
The teenage girl explained that she was cooking noodles as instructed by her father and had to hold the phone in her mouth to use the touch for illumination.
However, very early the next day, the father was reported to have woken her up, visibly angry and began to flog her, claiming she had spoilt the phone and was going to kill her.”This morning my daddy said he would kill me and he would kill himself.He beat me.I now said I will come to Radio Nigeria”.
This threat made her to run to Radio Nigeria.On her lips and leg were injuries sustained from the beatings she received from her father.
On further interrogation, Ikimo who is thirteen years old hails from Oyo town.She said her father and mother were separated.
According to her, she stays with her father at Agbede, Iyana Opo area in Ibadan, while her mother has settled down with another man and resides at Asaka, IkeOlu also in Ibadan.
She explained that her father banned her from visiting her mother while the mother and her new husband were equally not favourably disposed to her visiting them.
Sadly, due to a medical condition, she could not further her education and had to drop out of school when she was in primary four.
As a way to seek financial support for her upkeep, Ikimo claimed her mother took her to a rich man but alleged that the man defiled her.
She then was later taken to a relative with whom she stayed with for a while until her medical challenge played up again.
The relative could also not cope with her medical challenge and had to return her to her father.But since her stay with her father, she hasn’t been going to school due to that health condition.
Hearing that she would be returned to her father by Radio Nigeria, her countenance changed. Dark clouds enveloped her and the young girl bursted into tears, saying she was not ready to go.
Ikimo alighted from the vehicle that brought her home reluctantly and sorrowful.
At Agbede, Alarere is this muddy, patched house with an almost blown off roof and an unkempt surroundings where Ikimo and her father lives.
One of the neighbours who is an elderly woman said Ikimo’s father, (a scavenger) had gone to work. She attested to the threat issued by Ikimo’s father and noted that the young girl due to threats often ran away from home anytime her father scolded her for misbehaviour.
However, the appearance of some other people at home called for great concern.
One of the men on ground was sighted with a stick of cigarette, one of the ladies looked so hostile and the area where the house is sighted is the centre of meeting for some area boys as smell of illicit drugs could easily be perceived.
What then is the fate of Ikimo in the midst of all these? It is obvious she lacks parental care.
Would this sharp and bright girl receive the needed care that would bring out the hero in her?
How would she overcome the health challenge that has halted her schooling?
If there is any plea from Ikimo, it is to receive love and affection from a good spirited individual who would enable her realize her God given purpose just like she pleaded “I want someone who will help and take care of me”.
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By Adetutu Adetule
Semolina is a grainy powder that is milled from hard wheat (as durum wheat) and is often used to make pasta
Durum wheat can be ground into semolina flour, which can be used to make bread, pasta, and porridge. Semolina flour may have benefits, including supporting digestive and heart health, but it also contains gluten.
Semolina is coarse flour made from durum wheat, a hard type of wheat.
When ground into flour, durum wheat is known as semolina and used all over the world. This flour is more golden in color than all-purpose flour. It has a mild, earthy aroma.
Along with its culinary uses, semolina also benefits weight management, and your digestive system.
Semolina is high in protein and fiber — both of which slow digestion and increase feelings of fullness between meals.
It’s also high in B vitamins like thiamine and which have many important roles in your body, including helping convert food into energy.
Additionally, semolina is a good source of iron and magnesium. These minerals support red blood cell production and blood sugar control.
Cassava flour is rich in carbohydrates and a good source of dietary fiber, vitamins and minerals. It’s also relatively low in protein and fat, making it an excellent energy source. On the other hand, corn flour contains more protein and fat, and it is also packed with essential vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin C, and potassium.
Corn flour may help to reduce blood pressure and cholesterol levels. It may also be beneficial in improving digestive health. In addition, it may help to manage weight. Corn flour may be used in case of diabetes and iron deficiency.
Nutritional Benefits of cassava flour
Cassava flour is rich in carbohydrates and a good source of dietary fiber, making it an excellent energy source. On the other hand, corn flour contains more protein and fat, and it is also packed with essential vitamins and minerals, such as vitamin C, folate, and potassium.
Corn
Cassava
Water
-Sieve the corn & cassava flour together.
– Add water to the flour & stir to get a slightly thick consistency. Pour into the boiling water while stirring, properly stirs to prevent lump formation.
-Stir until it reaches the thickness you want. If too thick, add more hot/ cold water. Make holes with the stirring stick add water so the water gets to the bottom. Cook it on low heat for 20mins.
– t should look like this. You will notice it’s slightly elastic as you stir. Take off the heat & wrap in cellophane.
– Note that the more cassava flour you add the more elastic & soft the swallow will be.
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As I began to write this piece, I remembered the true life story of a young man who had a miserable life.
He tried all efforts to rise from the muddy waters of life, but kept on sinking. However, he was not silent.
Life wasn’t pleasant for him at all. It kept presenting him bile and he was at the verge of giving up when he met a Pastor. He narrated his ordeal and the Pastor prayed for him.
However, while praying, the Spirit of the Lord told the Pastor to tell the young man to go and plead with his mother to bless him: for the mother was said to have uttered a curse upon him while he was younger .
Thank God, he obeyed.He met his mother and she reversed the curse and blessed him.
In less than two months after, the young man rose from obscurity to lime light.The once rejected, poverty stricken, sorrowful and perplexed man became a force to reckon with.
Coming back from this story, I pondered ” How many glorious destinies had been ruined by utterances from parents!”
The tongue as little as it is among the parts of the body, carries both life and death, but, what it releases is dictated or controlled by man in whose mouth lies the tongue.
It is very disturbing that many parents, at the slightest provocation, habitually rain torrents of curses on their children, unknown to them that, the effects of curses do not manifest early in life.
Unfortunately, it might just be the time that such parents are to be enjoying the fruits of their labour over their children that echoes of the curses will start manifesting in their children’s life, just as it happened to that young man.
Dad, Mum, Uncle, Aunt, truth be told, ‘Words are powerful!
Curses are evil pronouncement which usually have negative effect upon the bearer. Sadly, this is a habit that is common among some parents. Curses flow freely on their lips to the extent that some would say that their children will not prosper. Yet such parents want to reap the fruits of their labour.
This is the very reason you as a parent must tame your tongue and watch your pronouncements upon your children.
Cursing your child is like labouring for something and using the same hand to pull it down.
This is the reason God frowns at raining curses.
“Out of the same mouth proceeds blessing and cursing.
James 3;10
My brothers, these things ought not to be so”.
Uttering verbal abuse which has in it curses, is an ill wind capable of distorting a child’s destiny because God has placed you as an authority over that child. Therefore, your tongue has a great impact on your child and the more reason you should be mindful of the way you use it.
A renowned writer, Liza Blau, agreed that cursing a child could give the child emotional trauma, lead to low self esteem, birth a feeling of frustration or anger. “She might internalize your hostility, leading her to feel worthless and unlovable. Cursing can also leaves your kid confused and unclear about what she did wrong, because it isn’t honest or healthy communication”.
Due to the imitative nature of children, a child that is constantly exposed to cursing might also unconsciously begin to imbibe the same culture which he displays among his friends in school or neighborhood.
While curses may have physiological effect, the spiritual effect is more devastating as the child may just be battling with unexplainable issues in life.
Though, children may misbehave sometimes, parents should as much as possible avoid evil pronouncements, no matter how angry they are. Your Words are like seeds waiting for the appropriate time to germinate for you to harvest.
However, children should also avoid actions that could provoke their parents to invoke curses on them.
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Succulent, flavorful, exotic, fleshy, nutritious, bright, oddly shaped, and tender are words that best describe a popular fruit found in many countries of the world including South-East Asia, East Africa, West Africa, and South America.
When it’s ripe, the flesh tastes so fresh, and sweet and emits an inviting fragrance. It is soft and juicy, pale orange in color, and has a texture ranging from fibrous to almost the consistency of butter. It is no other fruit other than Mango, botanically named, Mangifera indica.
Called Mángòrò in Yoruba, Magwaro in Hausa, and Popo in Igbo, (Nigeria), Mango is native to Southern Asia, especially Burma and Eastern.
This yellow, juicy, and delicious tropical fruit (drupe fruit ) is said to be a symbol of love in India as it is believed to possess the magical power to grant wishes. Thus, Offering a basket of mangos is seen as a gesture of friendship in India.
A blend of mangoes with some other fruits can make a tasty smoothie and can also be made fruit juice, into jam and appetizer.
Fresh mangoes are not only attractive and eye-catching, but have a tantalizing flavor and sweet taste; a Dietician, Mrs. Adeola Okijiola explained that mangoes are very good sources of Vitamin C, beta carotene (used as vitamin A in the body), and folate. amongst other nutrients, which contribute significantly to optimal nutritional health.
Mrs Okijiola listed the numerous benefits of mangoes. These include having high natural sugar/calories.
“This is why it’s beneficial to maximize their consumption when they are in season (except for those having a disease condition, and have been counseled by a dietician to regulate the quantity eaten by prescription or stay away from it, for therapeutic purposes). Supports immune system, digestive health, and eyes”.
1 Boost immune system: mangoes are great sources of beta carotene (used as vitamin A in the body), which is essential for proper immune system functioning.Great sources of antioxidants,
2 Improves digestive health: They are good sources of dietary fiber which aids bowel movement and may ease constipation especially when consumed with the peel (ensure to wash well before consumption). They also improve digestion and help in the absorption of food nutrients due to their vitamin content.
3. Promotes Skin health: Mangoes Improve skin health because of their high level of Vitamin C and beta carotene (used as vitamin A in the body) content, which helps to prevent sagging and wrinkling of the skin.
4Helps eye health: The beta carotene in mangoes (used as vitamin A in the body) content promotes eye health.
5. Lowers the risk of Chronic diseases such as cancer: They are also rich in antioxidants, which have been found to prevent cancer.
6. Supports Optimal Pregnancy Outcome: An adequate quantity of folate (especially in the first three(3) months of pregnancy) in a pregnant woman’s diet is crucial to preventing birth defects in babies. Mangoes are good sources of folates which supports optimal pregnancy outcomes by preventing birth defects.
Though there are some claims that mangoes are aphrodisiacs, the dietician says such cannot be medically proven
One to two medium-sized mangoes) per day
As highly beneficial as mangoes could be, “it could lead to diarrhea in some people if excessively consumed.
2. Some individuals could be allergic to some of its content (this is uncommon though). It could be in the form of skin reactions, oral allergies, gastrointestinal issues, or respiratory symptoms”. Mrs. Okijiola concluded.
A lone fatal accident occurred on the Lagos-Ibadan expressway in Ogere axis after Verony and claimed two lives.
The crash which occurred at half past ten in the morning involved a Toyota Camry with registration number BDG526JC.
According to the Public Education Officer Federal Road Safety Corps FRSC Ogun State command, Mrs Florence Okpe 7 persons comprising 4 female adults 01 male adult, 01 male child, and 01 female child were involved in the crash.
Pointing out that five persons were injured while two people died in the accident, Mrs Okpe attributed the cause of this lone crash to excessive speed which led to loss of control and the vehicle summersult.
She said the injured victims were taken to a private Hospital in Sagamu for medical attention and deceased bodies were deposited at the same hospital.
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“If I tell mummy, she would blame me for everything”.
“Do you know what i have told you, my parents do not know”?
“Ha, I can’t open up to my parents oo they will kill me”?
“I prefer to talk to my friends, my parents have no time”?
“Mummy doesn’t calm down to hear my side and understand me, she flairs up at any little thing”.
These are responses of some children while in a conversation with the author on various issues arising in their lives.
A lot of things which the children told the author were mind-blowing. Some could be classified as shocking revelations. But it is more shocking that they were kept from their parents for various reasons as found in their submissions above.
The question is, must we then sleep in the house with fire on the rooftop? Certainly, this issue cannot be wished away if parents will not be building strangers out of their children.
What then could be the cause(s) of this gap?
Findings show that Fear is a major factor that makes children want to hide things from their parents. Some parents do not give room for an atmosphere that could encourage their children to pour out their minds. They are so tough like granite and very inaccessible that even their arrival at home makes the children cringe.
Sharing their experiences, two siblings who were raised in this kind of atmosphere recalled how they used to push each other to their father whenever they wanted to collect something from him. David and Ruth explained that they were always afraid to approach their father because he was very tough, though the siblings were closer to their mum. It was funny to hear them say, that if they wanted to collect something from their father and he was in his bedroom, they would have to make a sign of the cross and sum up courage before knocking at his door.
Another factor that makes many children recoil is lack of affirmation. Children love to be appreciated and commended. It does not only give them room to express themselves but also builds confidence in them. Unfortunately, only a few children enjoy this from their parents.
Parents also make the mistake of condemning a child when he/she comes home with a poor academic result. Parents are often too quick to scold, especially using hurting words on children with weak academic results.
We must realize that there is a difference between the child and his result.
A child is more than the result he/she brings. This is not encouraging failure but opening the eyes of parents to the fact that in such a situation, the child needs reassurance of love and support so that he can perform better next time. Harshness will also blind parents from discovering what the child’s problem could be academically.
Parents who have this nature will also succeed in driving their children away from unburdening their hearts to them.
When your child shares his/her pain with you, and the next is to use it against her among other friends or just refer to it while chatting with others, ha! that child will see you as a parent who does not respect confidentiality.
Comparing your child with another, which may even be his siblings, is a sure reason that child will be silent. Through such you are building in him a feeling of inferiority, timidity and subtle hostility.
Know this, “Every child is unique in his/ her way”. This uniqueness distinguishes him from others. Not even twins have everything the same.
One thing about children is that they can perceive easily an atmosphere where love abounds and where hatred, and bitterness breed. Children desire sincere demonstration of love and affection beyond words of mouth.
The warmth felt in the womb for years, cuddles received from the mother, backing and all forms of care and affection registered in their subconscious, and they grow to desire more of it.
Therefore, if a child could perceive this from his / her parents, he or she would be free to dialogue with them. Love and affection are what everyone craves and there’s no substitute for it. As the saying goes, “Under someone’s hard shell is that person that wants to be loved and cared for.
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Mrs Ayeni needs your advice…. She got married to Mr Ayeni 19years ago. Before their marriage,both of them had a child each, coincidentally both were male.
After marriage,the couple was blessed with 4 children, 2female and 2male.
Over the years the family grew well and strong….Lekan,Mrs Ayeni’s first Son now 24years old and also a graduate brought Yinka whom he has chosen to marry for introduction.
While this was going on, Bunmi the first born of the family stood up to say, their marriage (Lekan & Yinka) will not hold!
This was a shock to everyone and when she was asked why, she responded by saying; Lekan never told her about the proposed marriage because she had been keeping herself for him.
Her mother told her, it was an abomination,to develop feeling for her own brother but Bunmi responded, “Mum,we have been dating for quite a while now, he disflowered me,I have aborted twice,now he is coming this last….Lai Lai mi o ni gba(never ever,I won’t agree).
At this juncture,the introduction ended and Yinka walked out of the house , Lekan followed begging her.
Without more words,please how do we resolve this matter?
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We are now in the age and times when we may really need to unmask the truth of whose responsibility is the child, Government, Society or Parents.
Today, some parents blame the teacher for every one of their children’s failures. Society also shares part of it and the government is not exempted.
Statements such as “that teacher is not performing his/her duty very well, see what the society has turned our children to, our government is not helping our children at all ” are now freely and commonly expressed by some parents due to the shortcomings in their children’s academic performance or behavioural pattern.
We may however need to counter these statements with the following questions; Who is to blame when the child refuses to do his homework ( a work that is expected to be done at home), and which keeps piling up? Must the teacher be blamed when a mother decides to do the assignment for her child rather than to guide him/ her through it?
Also, who is to blame when a child watches sensual films with his parents? Then when the boy attempts to have carnal knowledge of a mate, who is of the opposite sex, is the teacher also responsible?
Oh, we may as well ask, if it is the government that teaches a child to be unruly and bully other mates in school, dress in tattered uniform, wear crazy haircuts, with vulgar expressions gushing out of the lips without caution.
While we do not deny the fact that the teacher, society or environment, and government fall under secondary influencers when it comes to child development, parents still remain the major stakeholders in terms of child care, training and overall development.
From infancy, a child is welcomed into the hands of a father and mother and grows under their tutelage until maturity.
Even a child born outside wedlock has a father and mother.
However, someone may argue that what about children who are orphans? The truth is even an orphan is handed over to a caregiver in a family or orphanage. The case of a set of twin brothers comes to mind. Their mother died during their birth and the father took to heels realising they were twins. Perhaps, for fear of responsibility, only God knows. These twin brothers were raised by their maternal grandmother and today, one is a successful lawyer and the other a doctor.
Children who are used for rituals, abandoned at birth either under the bridge, beside the river, on refuse dumps or in most unimaginable places as reported in the news, have the hands of one or both parents.
Psychologist, Sigmund Freud posited that personality forms during the first few years of life and that how parents and other caregivers interact with children has a long-lasting impact on children’s emotional state.
Another research corroborated this by saying that a personality formed by the age of six or seven is not likely to deviate from its core.
Therefore, parents must realise that the formative years of a child must not be joked with and it begins from the home, just like the age-long proverb, “Charity begins at home”.
At this early stage, all the senses of the child imbibe consciously or unconsciously from elements around him, of which the parents are key.
As the child grows, all he has absorbed begins to manifest and the picture gets bigger by the day.
If there is no solid foundation for that child during his formative years, he or she will be swayed by the wind of abnormalities in his environment. It is like building a house on a shaky foundation
Such will easily crumble amid storms.
This is not to exempt other stakeholders who are the teachers and government. As a teacher, you are to make and not mar them through impactful teachings. So, a case where a teacher is found defiling his/her pupil is appalling and highly unacceptable.
Government, on its part, must be seen to uphold the Child Rights Act(2023). 24 out of 36 states of Nigeria have adopted the CRA as a state law. Therefore, twelve (12) states in Nigeria have yet to adopt the CRA in their laws of the 36 states of the federation.
Needlessly is, therefore, trading blame when it comes to whose responsibility is the child’s. The truth be told; you carry the major responsibility as a parent because you are given the child directly by God.
And to whom much is given, much is expected!
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The Executive Director, Centre for Religious Cooperation and Tolerance (CRCT), Wakajaye, Ibadan, Professor Sabit Ariyo Olagoke wants parents to shun divorce or separation at all costs as it always harms children
Professor Olagoke, who is the spiritual head and grand Imam, Shafaudeen-in Islam Worldwide gave the charge at a “One-Day Capacity Building for Religious Adherents on Advocacy Against Sexual and Gender-Based Violence in the Religious Space ” held at the CRCT hall of the organization.
The programme had adherents of the Islamic and Christian faiths in attendance.
He noted that adhering to the conditions for marriage would serve as a foundation for a happy home and an antidote to sexual/gender-based violence
Speaking on the girl-child, the Islamic cleric called for a change of mindset about the girl-child or women, saying women are the better half and a partner for a successful journey of life.
According to him, men should strive to be better husbands and father and to desist from marriage to minors
He emphasized the need for gender balancing in child-rearing stating that the male child must be trained to understand that women are not slaves and sex objects while men must uphold fidelity and women, chastity
Professor Olagoke, however, urged the public to stop the stigmatization of victims of rape in the spirit of social inclusion, adding “They must be able to carry out activities with a normal lifestyle like others in the society.
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While in the midst of some ophthalmologists who came on medical outreach to Ibadan, Oyo state, Nigeria, some time ago, a young, dark in complexion beautiful girl was brought before the medical team.
The girl in her teens, appeared calm and promising but was assisted because she had a visual impairment.
While waiting to be attended to, I learnt the sight challenge of the girl was not congenital but the consequence of the scolding she received from her uncle.
The uncle was said to have angrily slapped her in the face for misbehaviour and the resultant effect was that the girl had sight impairment, which led to her unenvisaged appearance before the opthalmologist.
Consider another case, a tragic one indeed: a little boy was asked to stoop down by stretching one of his legs backwards while touching the ground with one toe.
The child was forgotten on that spot, and eventually, he gave up the ghost.
Slapping the face, giving a child knock on the head, hitting the belly and employing all manners of corporal punishment to the extent of inflicting injuries all in the name of disciplining a child are very common among parents, especially in the African setting.
However, these forms of punishment are inimical to a child’s physical and mental well-being.
Corporal or physical punishment is defined by the UN Committee on the Rights of the Child, which oversees the Convention on the Rights of the Child, as”any punishment in which physical force is used and intended to cause some degree of pain or discomfort, however light”.
Some psychologists argue that corporal punishment can make children fearful of their parents and encourage them to hide.
Medical experts on their part, explained that the force of a slap could be injurious to the face region. Slap to the eye can lead to trauma, including retinal detachment and possible blindness, while slaps to the ears can cause ruptured eardrums, hearing loss, or tinnitus.
Though children may misbehave at times because they are still growing and under tutelage, it is advisable to focus on the shortcomings and teach them to change rather than subject them to life-threatening punitive measures.
A child may also get used to a particular punishment or form of discipline constantly meted out to him with the measure failing to achieve the desired correction.
Some forms of punishment can equally turn some children into bullies, and should such children grow up with these tendencies, they become belligerent or aggressive adults, men who could easily hit their wives or women who pounce on their husbands at the slightest provocation.
Cursing a child as well is not an option. The dangers of raining curses are not easily seen, as the Yoruba would say” Epe kii ja loojo”, meaning a curse bids its time before baring its fangs.
As a parent, one must study the punitive measures that would bring about transformation, and avoid those that could bring ruin upon a child.
That is not to say you should spare the rod but use it wisely and lovingly.
Perhaps, we should ask, how did we get to this point? How did all these begin, that a child will have the effrontry to frame up a teacher just because the teacher scolded him for a misbehaviour in school?
The child was only asked to stand up in class for disturbing, as a minor punishment, only for him to complain to his mother that his body was seriously aching because he claimed the teacher canned and insulted him.
In anger, the mother stormed the school and vented her anger on the teacher, raging profusely.
The experience of another teacher also comes to mind, as a student lied against her just because she enforced discipline. It was discovered that the student had a chat book, where she wrote all manners of unbelievable things whenever the teacher was in the class. Rather than listen in class, she conversed with her book of ‘mischief’, until the teacher caught her one day.
Should we also talk about the experience of a primary school teacher, who was assaulted to the point of death by the parents of a Primary One pupil at a school in Ibadan, the Oyo State capital, for canning the pupil who was found to have written answers on his laps during exams? But for the saving grace of God, the teacher would have lost her life in the hands of these parents.
Recently, there was the report of a school teacher at a secondary school at Agbor, in Delta State, who was attacked on the school premises by the father of a student, disciplined for misconduct. Eventually, the teacher died.
Numerous are the examples of high level of indiscipline among children and culpability of parents taking sides with their wards over actions they should have been well scolded for.
It is a dangerous thing for a child in her formative years to be made to see the immoral, abnormal as acceptable and normal way of life.
Dangling the carrot and sparing the rod is not in any way ideal for child training and development.
We are now in a society where some parents are controlled by their kids, with the parents even defending what shouldn’t be defended at all. There are some actions that are to the detriment of the child’s health.
For instance, a woman once took her ill daughter to hospital. After consultations, the doctor recommended some drugs to be administered to the child. But , the mother said the child would not take the particular tablet from her, and declined giving the child the prescribed drug despite the doctor’s suggestion, not until her husband told her that he would know how to ensure their daughter took the drug.
I have also heard, some parents, especially mothers utter statements such as ” I can’t allow anyone to cain my child oo.I knew what I faced on the day of delivery.
Such mindset is the reason some parents fight or abuse their children’s teachers or anyone who tries to scold them for their misbehaviour, forgetting that sparing the rod bakes a spoilt brat who in turn would become a trouble to the home and society.
Some mothers are equally in the habit of indulging their kids when being punished for an offence by their fathers rather than speaking with one voice to correct that child.
This among other factors accounts for increasing level of moral decadence, youthful exhuberance and juvenile delinquency.
Parents who are guilty of this should realise that loving a child is not in pampering and providing all material needs but also requires enforcing appropriate discipline when the child errs, in love.
A child that is left to go away with what he should be punished for will grow up believing, that is the normal way of life .And like the Yoruba adage, ” Ati kekere lati peka iroko, to ba dagba tan, ebo ni yio gba lowo eni, meaning .a stitch in time saves nine.
Birth pains, struggles encountered while raising a child, the soft spot you have or special instructions attached to the destiny of that child should not debar parents from inculcating discipline in a child.
One unarguable truth we must remember is that, children are gifts of God to families and a such, they are divine assignments in the hands of custodians. Like the Holy Scriptures instructs, “Train your child in the way of the Lord, when he grows up, he will not depart from it”.
If this instruction is neglected, then the child is vulnerable to being trained by the ‘World.’
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By Olaitan Oye-Adeitan
“Dear Mum, it’s with a heavy heart that I’m writing this note, knowing the pain it is going to cause you.
Mum, I want you to know that I love you dearly and if given the opportunity to live again, I will still choose you as mum and our family will still be my place of birth.
But, unfortunately, I know there is not going to be such opportunity.
Mum, I didn’t want to do this but it was compelled by circumstances beyond my control.I tried my best to pull through but my best was not good enough.
I battled along for like thirteen months now until my strength failed me.
You and Dad could not decipher what I was going through, and may be I should not blame you for that. My one and only brother came very close, understanding what I was passing through but it was too much for his young mind to comprehend.
Mum, I know that you and Dad loved me and did all you could to show it, but I was not feeling loved. You provided for me more than I even wanted, took me to places most of my mates had not even heard of.
Despite all these, my heart was longing for love. I needed someone who would love me for who I was. I needed someone who could reach to the depth of my soul and fill the vacuum there. The material provision you spoiled me with could not do that and I was alone all the while despite the fact that we laughed together and had gists as family.
Then came the last straw that broke the camel’s back, your brother, Uncle Tony came to live with us made me feel that he knew exactly what my soul was longing for, companionship! Yes, he chose to stay with me when you and Dad were too busy to notice my loneliness. He tried to keep me company when I needed someone to talk to but I had only gadgets and Teddy Bear. I was fooled to trust him and he hacked into my foolishness and he did it perfectly and deeply.
Mum, your brother raped me and used me as a sex toy for three whole years. I expected you and Dad to notice but none of you did. When he left our house last year, I was shattered because I had grown to fill the void of your presence with his dirty deeds. I couldn’t complain because I was afraid to lose him. But when he eventually left for Canada, the magnitude of the emptiness became too heavy for me to bear.
I struggled to forget those experiences but I could not. My grades dropped in school and Dad quickly arranged for a home lesson teacher. That singular act instead of helping me, fuelled what was going to happen to me.
The home lesson teacher you brought so much reminded me of Uncle and on several occasions, I felt like grabbing him and make him fill the void that Tony’s absence created in me.
Mum, I had to do this because I was lonely. Did you ever imagine what I was doing in my room all the time I stayed there alone? Couldn’t you for once go out of your way and spend time with me so that we could talk?
There are many things I would have liked to tell you but I did not want to add to your pain.
Let those other torments be buried with that undignified body of mine. Make sure my brother, David does not get to this point I am now. Also, please tell your friends and colleagues who have children to find out what is happening to their beloved kids before it gets too late.
Many of the things parents do in the name of showing love are not what we, the younger ones need. I would have been gone long hours before you get to read this note, but one cheering thing is that David is still there. Transfer the love you had for me to him. My bank details and the password of my phones and laptops are in the piece of paper I dropped in the drawer of your dressing table.
I miss you and it pains to empty the content of this bottle into my hand but I am constrained to do it all the same.Tell Dad and David that I love them.Tell my Pastor that I will miss his sermon and long prayers.Tell my friends not to envy me. Good bye mum”.
That was the pathetic letter of a fifteen year old girl to her mother.
If it is the question of who should be held responsible or blame , then every actor in the letter is guilty. But then, one should look deeper to save many other children who may be going through similar situation.
It is a case of a child starved of Love while the parents felt they were showing her love like the letter read “Many of the things parents do in the name of showing love are not what we, the younger ones need”.
Love is not defined by chocolates, ice creams, teddy bears, visiting the best places in the world, going a shopping and just lavishing a child with anything he or she needs. These are things done occasionally without necessarily having to sit down with the child, making it a case of just throwing goodies at the child without the affectionate attention.
Truth be told, your child NEEDS ATTENTION and AFFECTIONATE CARE. No amount of gadgets, technological devices can be substitute for the quality time you should, as a parent spend with your child.
Unfortunately, parents have allowed the hustle bustle of life to submerge the attention they are to give their children.
That is why many children die silently or unburden their heart to outsiders or friends who may take advantage of this vacuum,while parents take pride in the fact that they send them to the best schools, buy them best clothes, load their accounts with substantial money, buy all the needed gadgets for them and make them to be at par or above their mates.
Some children don’t get to see their parents in the morning because they would have left for work very early and also had slept before they returned in the night, leaving the care in the hands of house helps, friends, relatives .
Ask yourself, do you know what your child is going through? Do you know what that house-help, neighbor, uncle, aunt, teacher are doing to your child? Do you know their whereabouts? Popular TV presenter, Frank Olize whenever he was launching his programme, ‘Newsline’, way back then, would ask “Parents where are your children?”
On many occasions, these children want to let out issues bothering them, they want to ask questions, they need counsel, advice, they just want to sit down with their parents and rob minds together but parents are not there.
Never assume all is well with your child and don’t be too busy to find out.
Care must be taken to avoid thinking you know your child when in reality you do not.
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Breakfast, also called brunch, early meal and morning meal, the food prepared for a breakfast, is the first meal of the day, taken in the morning.
Being the first meal of the day, the fast metabolism rate means your body will effortlessly break down food to release energy and utilize that energy to keep you energized all day. You are breaking the fast your body went through the night and fueling it with essential nutrients to get your day started.
“The morning is a busy time! When you are trying to get yourself to work, even when working from home, or taking your kids to daycare or school, time for you to eat breakfast is not going to naturally occur. It takes conscious effort to make sure you provide yourself with the time to sit down at a table, in a chair, and enjoy at least 15 minutes consuming a well-balanced breakfast.”
The best time to have breakfast is between 7 am and 8 am. Under no circumstances must you delay your breakfast beyond 10 am. So, don’t be late for breakfast! When you’re hungry, it’s harder to concentrate.
Your body and brain are craving nutrients, start the day by refueling with nutritious foods like milk, fruits, and whole grains, protein, carbohydrate-rich foods like yogurt and oatmeal are especially important for improving concentration and focus. Yet many of us just grab a cup of coffee and miss out on all of breakfast’s amazing benefits.
What are the different types of breakfast?
A light morning meal, typically consisting of pastries and baked goods, fruits, toast, and coffee.
A cereal or an egg-based dish, however, pancakes, waffles, toast, and variants of the full breakfast and continental breakfast are also prevalent.
A substantial breakfast including hot cooked food such as bacon and egg
Bread with egg, akara and pap, instant noodles and eggs, moi moi with custard or pap, okpa.
Hausa koko and koose (Spicy millet porridge and akara).
Benefits of Eating Breakfast Each Day
Is it important what you eat for breakfast?
However, it’s important to choose the right mix of macro nutrients to give your brain and your body what it needs to thrive. For example, choose breakfast foods that contain a mix of carbohydrates, protein, healthy fats and fiber. Carbohydrates will give you energy right away, and the protein will give you a boost later on.
What happens when you skip breakfast?
Low blood sugar causes people to feel irritable, confused and fatigued. The body begins to increase production of cortisol, leaving us stressed and angry.
Skipping meals can also cause your metabolism to slow down, which can cause weight gain or make it harder to lose weight.
According to Mary Sabat, says, “If people skip breakfast, they are more likely to overeat later in the evening or nighttime when their bodies don’t need the extra calories. This late-night eating can lead to insulin spikes before bed and put them into fat storage at night.
Triggers Hair Loss- One of the major side effects of skipping breakfast results is hair loss. Yes, a meal that contains dangerously low levels of protein could affect the levels of keratin, averting hair growth and triggering hair loss. Breakfast is the quintessential meal of any day and has a major role in promoting the growth of hair follicles. So, if you wish to enjoy lush, strong hair with zero hair fall, then you ought to indulge in a protein-rich breakfast daily.
Worsens Hangover-It is perfectly fine if you overdid on your alcohol consumption the previous night. You can use a nourishing breakfast to ward off your hangover. A healthy breakfast rich in iron, folate, and other minerals and vitamins will help your body to compensate for the lost nutrients. It will also kick up your energy levels. Skipping breakfast could worsen the hangover by bringing down the sugar levels, inviting headaches and nausea. So, just have a healthy breakfast to overcome your hangover.
If you are on a weight loss regimen and have the habit of skipping breakfast, give it a second thought now. According to the studies conducted on the negative impacts of not eating breakfast, people who miss the morning meal had higher chances of gaining weight, quite contrary to your slimming goal. Are you confused? Just read on. Those who skip breakfast tend to consume more calories, saturated fat, and simple sugars during lunch and dinner.
Dominique Andreoli, MS, a nutritionist, says, “Skipping breakfast can disrupt hormone levels, including the hunger hormones ghrelin and leptin, which can lead to overeating later in the day. Additionally, skipping breakfast will raise the stress hormone, cortisol.”
Which meal is best to skip?
Study also suggests that skipping breakfast or dinner might help people lose weight, since they burned more calories on those days. Dominique Andreoli says that the elevated levels of inflammation noted after lunch “could be a problem,” and adds that the finding warrants further research.
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Do you know that high consumption of cinnamon is very dangerous to health?
Cinnamon is a popular spice derived from the bark of several species of cinnamon trees including cinnamomum verum or ceylon cinnamon and cinnamomum aromaticum or cassia cinnamon.
It has a warm, subtly spicy flavor and is commonly added to baked goods such as pies, cookies, and cakes as well as savory dishes and drinks like cider.
In addition to its culinary uses, cinnamon can be taken as a supplement.
Cinnamon contains various medicinal compounds that may benefit those with health conditions such as diabetes and heart disease.
Maximizing the benefits of this popular spice could be beneficial, however, consumption in large quantity or overdose could pose grave danger to our health.
A quick glimpse of the cinnamon nutrition will shed more light on the possible side effects of taking cinnamon powder in large quantity or even consuming it in dry or powdery form.
You may not have ever thought about the nutritional content of cinnamon.
It’s true that cinnamon contains almost no protein or fat, but a teaspoon of ground cinnamon does include many vitamins and other nutrients:
About 6 calories
About 0.1 gram of protein
About 0.03 grams of fat
About 2 grams of carbohydrates
About 1 gram of fiber
About 26 milligrams of calcium
About 11 milligrams of potassium
About 3 mcg (micrograms) of beta carotene
About 8 IU (International Units) of vitamin A
The amount of cinnamon found in food is generally safe. However, taking high doses of cassia cinnamon supplements could negatively impact health due to its high levels of coumarin.
One teaspoon of cassia cinnamon may contain 7 to 18 mg of coumarin.
The tolerable daily intake for coumarin is 0.1 mg per kilogram per day, which equates to about 7 mg for a 150-pound person.
Ingesting more than 50 mg of coumarin daily can lead to hepatotoxicity, or injury to the liver.
While it’s unlikely you would ingest this much coumarin through cinnamon, it’s best to avoid consuming very high amounts of cassia cinnamon.
People with conditions relating to the liver may be more sensitive to smaller amounts.
Cinnamon is generally well-tolerated and has little reported side effects. However, consuming high doses of cinnamon including high-dose cinnamon supplements could lead to side effects such as headache, heartburn, bloating, abdominal discomfort, nausea, diarrhea, allergic reactions.
If you experience any side effects including one or more of the symptoms listed above after taking cinnamon supplements, stop taking the supplement and contact your healthcare provider.
Note that too much intake of cinnamon, may lead to excessive sweating, heavy breathing, and a rapid heart beat. Contact your healthcare provider immediately if you experience these symptoms after taking a cinnamon supplement.
Cassia: Also called “regular” cinnamon, this is the most commonly used type.
Ceylon: Known as “true” cinnamon, Ceylon has a lighter and less bitter taste.
While Cassia cinnamon is safe to eat in small to moderate amounts, eating too much may cause health problems because it contains high amounts of a compound called coumarin.
Research has found that eating too much coumarin may harm your liver and increase the risk of cancer
Furthermore, eating too much Cassia cinnamon has been linked to many other side effects.
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The eggplant is a nightshade vegetable, like potatoes, tomatoes, and peppers.
This versatile vegetable comes in a variety of colours and shapes, oval, long and slim, and melon-shaped eggplants with white, green, pink, orange, and even striped skin.
It originally comes from India and Asia, where it still grows wild and Eggplants made it way to Europe with the Islamic empire in the 7th and 8th centuries.
It is called Igba in Yoruba language, the Igbos call it añara and known as Shuka Kwai among the Hausas. it is also known Aubergine and Brinjal.
Historians believe the British coined the term eggplant during their occupation of India.
Eggplant has a rich, meaty inside that takes on a creamy consistency when you cook it. The hearty texture makes it a good stand-in for meat.
Eggplant comes in these varieties:
The eggplant has been an ingredient in traditional medicine for thousands of years. In the ancient Indian system of ayurvedic medicine, practitioners used white eggplant to treat diabetes and the roots to relieve asthma.
While eggplant isn’t the most nutritious vegetable, it does give you a decent supply of potassium and fiber. And at just 25 calories and less than 1 gram of fat per serving, it’s a pretty guilt free food as long as you don’t soak it in oil.
However, Eggplant and other nightshade vegetables have the chemical solanine, which some people claim adds to inflammation and makes diseases like arthritis worse, though, there is no solid evidence that the small amount of solanine in eggplant worsens arthritis symptoms. But if you notice that your joint pain flares up after you eat eggplant, avoid it.
Eggplant has antioxidants like vitamins A and C, which help protect your cells against damage. It’s also high in natural plant chemicals called polyphenols, which may help cells do a better job of processing sugar if you have diabetes.
Early laboratory studies in cells suggest that eggplant protects against the type of DNA damage that leads to cancer.
Rarely, people are allergic to eggplant. Symptoms of an allergic reaction include a rash, swelling of the face, itching, hives, and a hoarse voice.
Before you cook eggplant, wash it and cut off both ends. The skin is ok to eat, but you might want to remove it if you find it too chewy.
Eggplant is naturally a little bitter. Sprinkle it with salt and let it sit for 30 minutes. The salt will draw out some of the bitterness. It will also prevent the eggplant from absorbing too much oil and becoming greasy during cooking. Rinse off the salt before you cook it.
You can roast, bake, steam, or sauté eggplant. When it’s cut up, it makes a good addition to curries and soups.
And, of course, a favorite recipe is eggplant parmesan, but keep in mind that rolling eggplant in breadcrumbs and frying it in oil will add calories and fat. To make a lighter version, bake the eggplant instead of frying it.
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